This is important because it happened a lot more than we realize. Teachers would give high fives and hugs every day. Teens hug and push and shove. Kids would wrestle each other on the playground. And now, that is all a big no-no. So what happens when we go without human touch?
It is well known that we are wired for human connection and physical touch.That when we do hug and hold each other, oxytocin is released and our stress response is calmed. It boosts our immune systems and lowers our heart rate. It even helps regulate digestion and helps us sleep well. On top of all that, we are able to empathize more with regular human touch.
Here’s what you can do to manage a lack of touch for your child:
1. Being aware of this is a big first step. Notice when your child is reaching out for more. More hugs, more pushing and shoving, more more more. And respond. “Do you need an extra hug today? Do you want to sit right next to me for a bit? Do you want to cuddle?”
2. Weighted blankets. Look for a blanket weighing about 10% of your child’s total weight, and see if they do any better after using it. The research on this is mixed – some people swear by it, some don’t notice the difference. Who knows, it might even work for you!
3. If you’re going to focus on one thing to help, focus on sleep. Lack of sleep has an immediate effect on the amygdala – the fight or flight response. So work on finding solutions in that area first as it will have the biggest impact overall.
