You live in a constant tug of war between caring too much and not caring at all.
It’s as if you’re oscillating between the two extremes, and sometimes it feels like no matter what you do, your depression is winning the battle over your anxiety. This constant swing between caring too much and not caring at all is exhausting. It makes you feel overwhelmed and like simply getting out of bed in the morning is a difficult task.
Most people will do anything to escape the clutches of anxiety by diving headfirst into distractions. Many others will even try to bury their fears under the weight of their responsibilities, only to find themselves sinking deeper into despair and numbness.
Suppressing anxiety might offer momentary relief, but it’s like trying to dam a river with a sieve. The more you try to ignore it, the more it persists, bubbling beneath the surface. Ignoring your emotional battles ultimately amplifies your suffering.
The anxiety-depression swing is more common than you think. This internal struggle can leave you feeling lost and overwhelmed. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Here are 3 actionables you can take to stop the swing from one extreme to the other:
Action step 1: Acknowledge your emotions
- Recognize your triggers: identify situations or circumstances that make your anxiety or depression worse.
- Write down your thoughts and emotions: you will gain better understanding of yourself when you write about it.
- Speak out your emotion when you feel it: “I feel frustrated that the delivery didn’t come as I expected it to.” vs holding onto the frustration for longer than necessary.
Action step 2: Connect with friends and family, and/or a mental health professional.
- Write down a list of 3 people: these are people you can turn to when you are struggling and reach out to them today to nurture those relationships.
- Consider emailing a mental health professional: do it this week if you know you are ready.
- Schedule in regular social interactions: schedule in those dinner dates with friends as if it is a work meeting.
Action step 3: Practice habits that keep your mood centered.
- Have a daily exercise routine: if you don’t have one, hire a coach.
- Practice a hobby: one that you have always wanted to try – extra bonus points if this hobby takes you outside!
- Sleep 7-8 hours a night: start by getting into bed 15 min earlier tonight.
Life can feel like a constant tug of war between caring too much and not caring at all. This internal struggle can be overwhelming, leaving you feeling lost and exhausted. Suppressing anxiety or numbing emotions may offer momentary relief, but it only keeps your suffering in motion.The swing between emotional extremes takes a toll on mental and physical well-being, making even the simplest daily tasks seem insurmountable. It leaves us isolated and disconnected.
It doesn’t have to be this way. You can learn to manage these emotional extremes with resilience and self-compassion, where you’re in control of your own well-being. The solution lies in a acknowledging your emotions, connecting with others, and practicing healthy habits. The action steps are clear. If all you do is take action on one of the above action steps, you are one step closer to living the life you want to live.
